Oh No Its Valentine's Day!!

Oh no! Its Valentine's Day today...A day where lovers get mushy, & the singles get extra EMO. Just login to facebook and you will agree with me,Though I must admit, not all behave that way but most of them do. I personally feel that Valentine's Day is wayyy overrated. I mean come on, its the only day where the price of flowers, chocs, teddy bears etc are just plain ridiculous. Why on earth would you buy your loved one  a bouquet of flowers that cost a fortune only to have it wilt and die a few days later?  If you are confessing your undying love to someone special then why get her something that dies eventually?? The same goes for chocolates..why get something that the other half can't keep?

Courtesy of GOOGLE

Courtesy of GOOGLE

Anyways having said that, I am not in anyway against Valentine's Day..I think its a beautiful celebration of LOVE but please don't confine your love to just your other half.  What about your family? You know, the people that actually raised you up?? Well yeah show them some love too. Instead of spending hundreds on a person that you may or may not see again next year, why don't you spend that money and time with your family? Or better still why not mix the both? If you are serious about your other half then isn't it the best time to introduce him/her to the family? And don't forget your friends. They have been there for you at your darkness moments, they know your deepest, darkest secrets and yet they are still your friends so why not show them some LOVE too?
And those of you who have been whining about how it sucks to be single on This Day well suck it up! What is so wrong in being single on Valentine's?? Just because you've got no one to buy you gifts doesn't mean your life sucks. Show yourself some LOVE lah...treat yourself to a good time for having overcome all the obstacles in your life so far..It may be a blessing that you are single on a Valentine this year. Think about it, you could have been stuck in a unhappy relationship.. So give yourself some credit & go and have some fun doing things you enjoy! Don't want to do it alone? Well grab all your single friends along then...Im sure there are plenty of singletons out there and who knows you might just meet someone special as well  ;)

So Happy Valentine's Day and remember its a day for the Celebration of LOVE so get out there and celebrate it! :)

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As for me, well I'll be celebrating LOVE with a beautiful dinner with family like I do every year.

XOXO

Non-Tamil speaking Tamilians..A disgrace? I don't think so.

Ive been reading a few blogs lately by Indian bloggers and I noticed how most of them will have a post that criticises Indians that dont speak Tamil. Their reasons are that as an Indian, we should be able to converse in our mother tongue atleast. Well i agree with that, honestly. I think we should all be proud of our culture and heritage. But then again what is so wrong in conversing in English?
There seems to be a general misconception among some people that Indian girls / guys that speak English  are usually not intouch with their heritage and culture and are often spoilt brats.

I agree I am one of those who can't really speak Tamil, not because I choose not to but because I was not expose to the Tamil language when I was young. You see I come from a mixed parentage where my mom is not a Tamilian therefore the usual language used at home is English. I picked up hindi through my mom and Bollywood movies. But Tamil was rarely spoken at home and now Im proud to say Im finally learning the language.

But the question here is, is it fair to label all those who can't speak tamil as a disgrace to the community? If you answer yes then Im NOT sorry to say that you are judgmental. Just because i dont speak the language doesnt mean i dont respect the culture. Iv seen how some who speak fluent Tamil,curse in that language. Does that make us proud? Definitely not! The words that they use, OMG!! You speak about preserving the culture well then please instead of judging and blaming those who cant speak Tamil for spoiling the names of Tamilians, maybe you could just walk in to a club on a weekend and see how some of these tamil speaking people are behaving. I know that knowing your mother tongue is important but its not right to overlook one's character and call one a disgrace just because the person doesnt know the language. Instead of judging you should maybe try to help these people learn the language.

Having said that, I  have also met those wannabes that pretend, (yes they pretend...  -.-") to not know tamil just to look cute. How i know its fake? Well these people will be talking in proper tamil with their family members but when it comes to their friends they go all "ennakku tamil konjum konjum teriyum" ( I know tamil just a little) Come on la guys, if you know the language then why hide it? why pretend? Isnt knowing more languages a good thing? I would love to learn Tamil and I am learning it now though my friends would really like me to stop killing the language. ;)

So guys, what i am trying to say here is that dont be judgmental. Never judge a book by its cover as it's content may suprise you. Be proud of your heritage. Learn the language if you dont know it since learning a new language is always an advantage. And dont criticises those who dont know the language and try to make them see the advantage of learning it instead.

ps/: please disregard any errors on spelling and grammar since this was typed out in a hurry and in a state of sleepiness  thank you. ;)

"An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind"

Shocked. Really shocked. That was how i felt initially after watching the latest viral video that has created a storm among the online community. Yes I’m talking about none other than the video that shows the President of Suara Wanita 1 Malaysia (SW1M) humiliating a UUM student in front of 2300+ students in a forum held in that particular university.
When the initial shock subsided, I was overtaken by ANGER. Yes the very same feeling that overtook the judgment and rationality of most of us. (HUH??? wait, what??) 

                                                                 The infamous video.

                                                                        Source: YOUTUBE.

Look I’m not saying what happened is right. It’s not. No student should be made to feel how Bawani (that's the name of the student in the video in case you’re wondering.) felt.  Well you see, most adults’ feel that youths these days are detached from politics and other happenings in the country and that all we care about are KPOP, CLUBS, MOVIES & SOCIAL SITES. And who can blame them?? Most of us are detached from reality anyways. Do a random survey on the streets today regarding any issue that is happening in the country or the world and chances are you will be greeted with a blur look. Don’t believe me? Well feel free to try it. But Wait! Hold your horses! I’m not saying ALL youths are ignorant but I’m also not denying that SOME are. And finally when we get a student like BAWANI who has the courage to speak up and the knowledge to match, she gets shot down with personal remarks on her education background. (WTH right??)

 Sharifah demanded respect. She said that we should respect our elders. Yes I agree, we should respect our elders BUT not just because they are older than us but because they have earned their respect. Now tell me, would you respect a 50 year old man who raped his granddaughter? Do you think a 30 year old woman who abuses her maid deserves respect? Do you think Hitler who claimed many lives deserves respect? If your answer to these questions is yes then I would like to know- WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU?????!!!!!!  Using the same logic, I admit that I’ve got no respect whatsoever for Sharifah Zohra Jabeen.But why? She didn’t rape, abuse or kill anyone right? What’s the big deal? Well I don’t see a reason to respect a woman of higher authority who insults a student  who was just trying to make a point. If you disagree with someone, the right and smart thing to do is to argue it out with facts and figures, you don’t insult the education background of the other person or deny her to speak. Sharifah also mention about Democracy in the video, well can a good soul please go explain to her what democracy really means?? Because I feel she has it confused with dictatorship. And what’s with the nonsense about “if you don’t like it here feel free to go to some other Country”? Whatever happened to “If you don’t like it make an effort to change it” attitude??? Sigh. At the end it all boils down to one's mentality and Sharifah, sorry to say but yours is as shallow as the drains near my house. (Trust me the drains at my place are very very shallow..:P)

 “WHEN I SPEAK YOU LISTEN” -dictatorship much?

Anyways coming back to our topic, so why did I say that the anger we felt regarding this video has clouded our judgment and rationality? Well firstly did any one of you during this whole video recording noticed any racial slurs given by Sharifah? NO?
Well neither did I. So where is all this racial comments suddenly coming from?? So what if BAWANI is an Indian student and Sharifah was a Muslim woman? What happened was the denial of one's right to speak and to express one's self. So what is the need to pick on one's race to make a point?

When the video first went viral, there were people who were supporting Sharifah. This one particular  lady however decided to take her 'supportiveness' a little too far by hurling racial slurs i.e. pic below

SOURCE : FACEBOOK.

This pic then starting popping out everywhere on facebook and TA-DA the racial war begins. You see, the funny thing about us Indians is we don’t mind spoiling our own name by making our mark in Gangsterism, and crime or disrespecting our culture (Thaipusam is coming up, Go see for yourselves in Batu Caves.) but hey one word against us by someone else and then all hell break loose. All of a sudden we get worked up and start retaliating. I am an INDIAN but when I saw the video, I saw a brave student taking a stand. That’s it. Period. What difference does it make if she wasn't an Indian? To me, none. If the same would have happened to a Malay, Chinese or a student of any other race, I would have reacted the same way.

To the lady who decided to use race as a weapon to further insult BAWANI, well I honestly feel sorry for you. I don’t think you will succeed in life. Not with that kind of mentality.

To the people who retaliated with equally racist statements-Where the hell is your brain when you need it? What makes you any better than her when you are also doing the same thing? THIS IS NOT AN ISSUE ON RACE. Please get that into your thick skull. This is an issue of FREEDOM OF EXPRESSION.  Gandhi once said- “An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind”. He is right you know. Yes racist remarks against my race makes me angry but instead of retaliating the same way, show her that we are way better by IGNORING her. Show her how stupid she is by proving to her that we are MALAYSIANS first, only then are we INDIANS, MALAYS, CHINESE etc.

 Right now from where I’m seeing it, this video that started out as an issue of pure ignorance and stupidity has now taken an ugly turn towards racism. Things are only going to get uglier after this when both sides start throwing racial slurs at each other without much thought for the consequences ahead.

All I can do is hope that we are way smarter than this.

A Brand New Year-2013. Hello bloggersville..;)

Its 2013, A Brand New Year so i thought i might as well start of the year doing
something new and lo behold-i decided to start up a blog.
I've always thought about it but never dared to attempt it for so many reasons but this year
I have decided to take a chance, to take a leap of faith, to try something new.
What's the worse that could happened? someone not liking what i write? well so what?
im writting to express myself and not to satisfy others..

This year started off pretty badly for me. Nothing is going right..all that has been planned is slowly failing..
those that Ive trusted are turning their backs on me..and its only been 7days into the new year..sigh
but like they say, every cloud has a silver lining..im yet to see these silver linings but im hoping il find them soon..

2012 has taught me alot..mostly on how you shouldnt
trust others but yourself because at the end no one knows you or  can love you better than yourself.
I've also learned that no one can hurt you unless you give them the liberty to do so..
2012 has been a year of challenges for me and im thankful for my friends who has been there for me throughout it all..
These guys deserve a huge thank you and a big hug for sticking by my tantrums and
dramas so Miss H,Miss J and Mr S THANK YOU!!!!
As for this year, i refused to let the negativity bring me down again. Im going to fight
back harder and come out a winner. Im gonna' rock 2013 and nothing or no one is going spoil the year for me.
so here's looking forward to a positive year ahead..;)

So this year's resolutions are as follows:
1) LOse weight!!!!
2) Learn to love myself. <3
3) Learn to live & take risks.
4) Learn to love those around me and let go of those that are not worth it.
5) Learn to think positively.
6) Learn to face my own problems instead of running away.
7) Learn to accept.
8) Less Facebook, More Lawbooks..:P

So lets hope for the best this new year and even if things dont work out, lets wish for the courage to move on..
HAPPY NEW YEAR !